The other day, I signed the boys up for basketball. I learned that G-Man and Randy wouldn't be on the same team due to their age differences. They also have different "seasons." This means G-Man would play for a while and then after he was finished, Randy would pick up. When that was over, baseball would start. I had a mental breakdown.
Randall got home and I discussed my thoughts with him. I told him how that night was the first night in a LONG time that we had at home. We cleaned, played, curled up and watched tv, laughed, and even had a home cook meal. It was GLORIOUS! The kids were enjoying each other and just loving the time at home. We decided to skip basketball season. I thought for sure Randy would not be happy. I was in tears thinking about telling him. But, guess what?! He was all for it. Even at his young age, he realized how much we needed that time at home, together. He said he wanted more nights like the one we just had.
Please don't get me wrong, I LOVE watching my boys play sports. However, I saw the need that our family had. We needed time TOGETHER. Not on a field, or on a court. We needed togetherness. Our family was craving it and we didn't even realize it. Everyone was on edge. Everyone. I told Randall I felt like I was being selfish. He told me, "What part of wanting to be together is being selfish?"
A couple of days later, I pick up the boys from school and I hear Randy say, "YAY! Tonight is fun night!" I asked him what that meant. His response was, "You know, a night like we had the other night, playing and enjoying time at home!"
Yes, I think it is safe to say we made the right choice. Will I miss basketball season? You betcha. I love the sound of the ball dribbling up and down that court. However, I love the sound of my children laughing and enjoying time together much more.
I don't know what it was that got our family in this rut, but I am thankful we saw the need to climb out. Some families can do it and still find time together, but I felt like our family was falling apart. We were all frustrated with each other and just not focusing on our family and the Lord. I am excited for some quality time together, which is MUCH NEEDED!